There is the timeless expression: “if you’re explaining, you’re losing.”, which is absolutely true. You don’t have to explain yourself if you can’t, and if you can’t, you certainly shouldn’t try to, unless you want to undo everything you’re setting out to accomplish.
The goal should be to make things as clear as they can be, but no clearer. The reality is there are going to be people who “get” what you are saying, and there are going to be a lot more who don’t “get” what you are saying. This is precisely what Christ means when he says “He that hath ears to hear, let him hear.” - Matt 11:15 KVJ.
The literalist will think Christ is talking about anyone with physical ears, of course that’s a wrong interpretation. It takes a bit of an imagination to grasp what he is getting at. He means anyone with the ability to understand what he’s saying. He is only going to be as clear as he can and if you don’t get it, you don’t get it.
Some have it in them to hear - to understand. Most do not.
The things is, as we try to become more clear and precise our message will only be lost. The observer effect applies to just about all things in life. By trying to explain the message, we obscure it and change it completely.
The other point is that nothing can be forced. Explaining the world is a way of forcing a worldview on to someone. A worldview cannot be forced, it must emerge organically.
This dilemma stems ultimately from our modern mind not being able to stand any ambiguity, it needs everything precisely laid out. This is mostly because we don’t know how to anymore and also so we don’t have to do any creative legwork. The rational way is often the lazy way.
After decades, even centuries, of over-relying on rationality we have become afraid of using our imaginations to interpret the world. The modern mind is an uncreative mind, and because of this it now has half the power it otherwise would if we practiced things like being okay with ambiguity or not wrestling with a paradox. We can’t stand these things because we think too small, we lack the imagination required to grasp them.
If we cannot access our imagination we cannot access reality. The world becomes even harder to grasp without an imagination.
I should keep this short, lest I explain too much.
Curious what your thoughts are on my recent post, written only days before yours. A slightly different angle, but I think the same conclusion. Synchronicity? https://gnosuch.substack.com/p/the-feminine-urge-to-explain-yourself?s=w
Sometimes explaining may be the right move. Like mathematics. Or for someone genuinely interested but slow.